30 questions to ask before you die – that is the article in Rebelle Society that has put it out there with these questions for us to think about. My fiance and I do a “status check” every night to talk about what the best and most challenging parts of our day were, and what shadows are following us that we want to work on to minimize or even eliminate. I love these questions in the article because they are like a bigger version of a status check – and meant to remind you of how we can affect our own future for the better.
Below are excerpts, and I’d love your thoughts on what made you stop and think, or even one that you want to answer right here in the comments 🙂
So here is an exercise we can do together: a tweak to your usual bucket list. Some 30 questions you and I should ask ourselves (hopefully) before we die. Grab your journal. Turn this into a self-inquiry practice. You will be surprised at all the subterranean world that comes out of you. And it might just save your life by bringing it into the right perspective: ahem…yours.
How much have you loved? Count the people. Add it up. Have you loved even when it hurts, when you can’t, when you shouldn’t, when you wouldn’t, when you didn’t – just because love is a verb, not a noun, and it’s the hardest, most beautiful gift of life?
What do you love doing that you aren’t doing? Furthermore, how could you get paid for doing what you love? It’s your right to be alive every second of the day.
What person or type of person would you choose as a life companion? A witness to your life? When you say your dreams out loud, you turn on the engine.
Where do you want to live? Are you happy with your life where you are? There’s nothing more inspiring and motivating than good company and an environment that reflect and support your mission.
What do you want to accomplish? And most importantly, why — what’s your motivation? Be unrealistic. Life itself is unrealistic. Your very existence is as random, impossible and unrealistic as it gets. Only unrealistic people accomplish extraordinary things.
What do you want to be remembered by? Write it down. This is the woman who ____. Take your time.
What kind of life would “make you jealous“? And why? If you could start over, what would your life look like, right now?
What adventures do you want to have? Can you list five?
If you had to add something to humanity, what would your contribution be? List at least one. The good news is that whatever the answer to this question, you’ll enjoy doing it. Your mission is encrypted in your blueprint.
What are your ghosts? Your unspoken demons? The stuff you keep in your closet under a lock? What are you most deeply afraid of? Say it out loud. Get real with yourself.
What are your favorite memories? Can you picture four or five instances in your childhood you are fond of? What’s that common denominator, the deepest statement about you and life, that lies at the core of them? There is usually only one – or two life-altering statements that come up when you dig. How can you live from that same belief now? How can you transform your current experiences so they begin with that same idea – that fueled your most cherished childhood memories?
Who do you love the most? What 10 people would you put on a lifeboat in case of end of the world? Do you eat, drink and sleep every day? Then love everyday too.
What worries you the most? Why? List even the most trivial worries. And if any of these worries came true, do you think you could survive?
What type of people inspire you and make you come alive? What people — at this point in your life — add to the truest equation of YOU?
What type of people bring you down and make you hate yourself? We each have a choice – to give and to take love — and whether we are aware of it or not, we choose the people we give to and take from. You are responsible for your heart’s investments.
Who are your mentors? What have they taught you? Writers, thinkers, teachers, people who’ve shown you the way at some point, and the beautiful mystery of life made sense in their hands. You owe them a mention on your lips and in your heart; and you must pay it forward and become a way-shower to someone else.
What is your cosmic elevator pitch? Not your job description, not your professional bio, not your resume, not your About page. In short, who are you – raw, unedited, wild, ordinary and extraordinary you? What does it come down to? And why?
What issues can you help with? We’re in trouble as a planet, as a species, as a global community, and as individuals. It’s not a choice, actually. If you want to live here, you need to pay the toll of helping out, or your so-called-living won’t be more than a selfish idea of living.
How can you express yourself creatively? Starting with the belief that we are all creative animals by nature, what’s your medium? Don’t think about profit, think only of how you can recycle your demons and become a channel for truth.
How do you manage your time? What works for you? If you’re a mess, how can you get it together? Can you make a schedule, write down your routine (to help you stick to it), come up with a productivity manifesto of some sort?
If you were to leave the world today, what’s your manifesto? What would you tell your children if you were forced to abandon them unexpectedly? Tell them now (even if you don’t have children).
What makes you come alive? What ignites you? What makes you forget time, and space, and love, and food and water and even why – if taken to extreme?
What are your most painful memories? Are you still replaying them in your mind and using them as an excuse to fuel your fear of getting hurt again? Do you think they might be keeping you from trusting your heart again?
Why do you eat the way you eat and the things you eat? What do you think you should you eat that you’re not eating – and why? What can you put in your body that gives you pleasure and also respects and nourish it?
What ignites your brain? What turns your light bulb on? Can you add more of that to your everyday? Get smarter? Train your brain? Evolve?
What physical exercise makes you sweat it like you mean it and enjoy both, the process and the afterward feeling? If you’re not currently practicing it, can you read more about it, surround yourself with people who practice it, sign up for a class, do whatever will motivate you to practice it?
What does your body need in order to function at its best? Can you make a list of what makes you feel healthiest and function optimally and try to practice it every day?
What feeds your spirit? What gives you goosebumps? What makes you fall down to your knees in awe (and weep)? It has to be higher than a person (than you), and surpass your understanding. There is no awe without mystery.
What are you proud of so far? What have you accomplished? What can you, at this point in your life (your circumstances, your reality), give yourself a hug for?
Fast-forward to your epitaph. What does it say?
Life is an endless flow of questions – meaning is always in the making and it is constantly being created as we speak. The ultimate meaning of life then is the One that creates meaning: the traveler (not the journey), the subject (not its objects, ideas, circumstances, possessions), the lover (not the love), the wayseer (not the way), the warrior (not the battle)…