As many of us have, I’ve been thinking a lot about the whole nauseating news about what Harvey Weinstein did to so many women, about the women and men in Hollywood who are coming out loudly in interviews and on social media against him, and much of the deep hypocrisy that goes along with the people surrounding this story.
The hypocrisy comes from so many directions that it makes my head spin.
The father of daughters bullshit.
Men in Hollywood like Matt Damon claimed they had no idea what was going on – even though Damon’s been called out multiple times about that being a lie. [Not to mention that his BFF Ben Affleck, who coincidentally dated Gwyneth Paltrow after she experienced Weinstein’s disgusting behavior] Then Damon claimed a superior sensitivity towards women and girls because he has daughters.
Motherfucker, Harvey Weinstein has daughters as well. Didn’t stop him from rape.
As Judd Apatow said, “As if you have to be a father of daughters to know this is awful, right? You shouldn’t need daughters to get this.”
Or better yet, as stated in the Vulture article, “Your wives gave birth to a baby girl, not a moral compass.”
The men who knew about Weinstein then continued to work with him, stayed silent, and/or flat out lied after the news story broke.
Brad Pitt (who has we know not only dated Gwyneth Paltrow but married Angelina Jolie…both who were attacked by Weinstein). Matt Damon (see above). Ben Affleck (who not only knew and lied about knowing what Weinstein did to Rose McGowan, has also admitted to groping women and his brother Casey has settled two sexual harassment suits)… And all the others we haven’t yet heard about.
Woody Allen met Soon-Yi Previn (far right, in a 1986 family photo) at the age of 9, a year after Mia Farrow adopted her. A couple of years after this photo was taken he would be fucking Soon-Yi, who he later claimed the “paternal” nature of the early relationship worked in their favor. Eww.
All the actors and actresses who worked with Woody Allen, a child molester who married his own adopted daughter, yet claim to be shocked by Weinstein’s behavior. Same goes for the ones who defend and applaud Roman Polanski, an admitted child rapist.
I was talking to my husband tonight about the Weinstein rapes and assaults, when I saw a blurb about Kate Winslet, one of the many Hollywood actresses who made a statement against Weinstein – as she is doing press for her latest movie…directed by Woody Allen. It sickened me.
We all know about how Woody married Soon-Yi. As if that wasn’t enough to be repulsed over, his daughter Dylan described how he groomed and sexually assaulted her at the age of 7. Her brother Ronin wrote about the hypocrisy of Hollywood in relationship to his father and the molestation in this article. How as a boy he always thought something was messed up because Woody Allen would climb into bed with his sister in the middle of the night and force her to suck Allen’s thumb. And all that occurred was enough to give Mia Farrow full custody of the children…but apparently not a jail sentence for this creep. Just like Weinstein, Woody Allen has his own team of high-paid attorneys and a PR machine to boot. And if you were not aware, the attorneys back then actually did conclude probable cause to pursue charges against Woody Allen, but recommended they not move forward because it might traumatize Dylan further to testify against him.
I could never understand how anybody would go see a Woody Allen movie after knowing about him marrying Soon-Yi, and after the molestation was revealed, people continue to pay money go to his movies and actors and actresses continue to fawn all over him. Woody Allen profited from those who bought tickets to see his movies. A sexual predator, Woody Allen has been successful for decades because of complicit hypocrisy of actors and actresses in Hollywood, including but not limited to:
Blythe Danner (Gwyneth’s mum)
All of these actors have been complicit in supporting a child molester. I think Diane Keaton might be the worst of them all because she has known him the longest and she has known his daughter, and essentially called his daughter a liar.
Of course then there’s Kate Winslet, an actress I adored for years until I read about how she not only defended working with Woody Allen but also Roman Polanski, feigning ignorance and knowledge all at the same time, saying “you put it to one side and just work with the person.” I wonder if she’d say the same thing if her daughter Mia was the one drugged and raped by Roman Polanski – who by the way admitted his crime and was convicted before skipping the country to avoid sentencing.
And speaking of the repeat rapist Roman Polanski, he has other complicit actresses defending him, from Tilda Swinton to Kim Cattrall to Meryl Streep to Whoopi Goldberg, the latter who said on The View that the 43 year old man having sex with a 13 year old girl who he had drugged and was unconscious was not actually rape.
“Those people are flat out saying they would refuse to give up a few good movies to prevent the rape of a child.” – Jezebel.com, 2009
And not only were actors and actresses profiting off of the work of Harvey Weinstein, Woody Allen and Roman Polanski, the public was paying them to continue living their lives degrading, humiliating and assaulting women and girls.
All too often in this world there is a massive amount of hypocrisy in justifying pleasure at the expense of others. We’ve all heard the term “voting with our wallets”, and when you pay money to rent a video or go to the theater, you are voting with your wallet and saying that you support the people who put that movie out there, from the actors to the directors to the producers. I always wish that the Maya Angelou quote “when you know better you do better” was actually true most of the time, because I certainly don’t see it in Hollywood, and I certainly don’t see it in the general public who might be allowed on their Twitter and Facebook pages, but are still going to the theaters filled with movies made by these sexual predators.
And speaking of hypocritical actors and audiences…
It may be super fun to joke about Scientology and the unbelievable antics of Tom Cruise jumping on sofas and condescending two people who question him, or the creepy stare of John Travolta, or the outer space parts of the organization that is absolutely not a church but a business that gets away with not paying taxes, but this shit is real, and there is an unbelievable amount of abuse in this cult. Read more about the rampant abuse of women within the Church of Scientology HERE.
Then tell me once you’ve learned this, now that you know better, you’re going to watch another episode of Orange Is the New Black with Laura Prepon or Tom Cruise’s latest Mission Impossible movie or listen to a Beck CD. These are active members of Scientology, who are contributing financially to this disgusting and abusive organization. This is an organization who also considers homosexuality a “sexual perversion”.
“Scientology’s abuses are particularly egregious, from forced abortions to rape cover-ups to sexualized labor…this is an organization that exploits and abuses everyday, decent people—destroying their families, subjecting them to psychological torture, stripping them of their money, harassing them, and otherwise leaving their lives in ruin. As is so often the case, this power-hungry organization has in many cases exploited women in particular for gain. And that makes fighting Scientology a cause every feminist should care about.”
There’s a significant audience out there who loves to say that they can separate the work from the perpetrator. People out there watching reruns of The Cosby Show, The Apprentice, turning on Netflix and watching Annie Hall or The Pianist, separating themselves from any accountability of giving their time to those who have committed sexual assault and/or abused women and children. Stephen Colbert and Jerry Seinfeld actually had an interesting discussion recently on his late night show about listening to old Cosby albums which many of us grew up on (including myself), and what to do with those old albums. And I was really proud to hear Stephen Colbert said he could not separate himself from what Cosby has turned out to be – a long time sexual predator.
When I found out about what Cosby did, I took a look at the only DVD set in my collection at home that he was on – The Electric Company, that I had bought in hopes that I would have a child who I would watch it like I had back in elementary school. And all I could think of was being asked “who’s that, mama?” when my child pointed out to Bill Cosby on the screen, and that was enough for me to throw that box set in the garbage.
Now that you know better, are you still going to spend your money on these people? For those of us who have been sexually assaulted/abused, what if the celebrity we were talking about was the person who raped or molested you? And what if all kinds of Hollywood people were swarming to go work with the person who came into your room late at night when you were just a child, calling him a genius and blaming the victim, calling you a liar or saying that the work he does has nothing to do with his behavior?? Would you want them buying their next mansion with money made from working with the guy who pinned you down and raped you in a hotel room, or was best friends with and a staunch defender of a horrifically violent man who tells his followers that if they speak out on rape or other forms of sexual abuse that they will never see their families again?
Many of us were taught the various adages that people will judge us based on who our friends are, and to practice what we preach, to walk the talk, to be the change we wish to see in the world, to put our money where our mouths are. Basically, to not be a fucking hypocrite in how we live our lives.
Yet if you look closer at this story, along with the decades-long history of assault of this man Harvey Weinstein, you’ll see a history of both silence and hypocrisy in the people who surrounded him. Millionaires worried about getting fired or blacklisted, not giving a shit about more women and girls getting raped because their careers were more important, because they care more about making an extra million (something most of us won’t make in a lifetime). Actresses who regularly speak out as feminists and take roles in productions that support the stories of women, yet simultaneously defend the right to cherry-pick the things they like about Scientology and disregard all the abuse going on in the organization.
You’ll see a history of hypocrisy in a general public who paid money to see movies by sexual predators, or who buy CDs from singers and rappers who beat the shit out of their girlfriends, or who buy tickets to the games where the star player tracked his wife out of the elevator by her hair or runs a dogfighting ring or regularly seeks out underaged prostitutes. You’ll see a lot of people out there voting with their wallets and talking out of their asses…when you know damn well that if the perpetrator was in their own family they wouldn’t touch them with a ten-foot pole much less help finance them.
Again, like Maya Angelou said, when you know better you do better. Or at least you’re supposed to. Going back to the conversation I mentioned with Jerry Seinfeld and Stephen Colbert, at the beginning Stephen was the only one saying that he could no longer listen to those Cosby albums because he couldn’t separate the man from the work, the work that was done while he was out raping women. Initially, Seinfeld was saying that while he hadn’t heard those records in years, he probably could separate the two things…but after some continued conversation, he realized that when he thought about it, he sounded like an idiot and came around and admitted that you can’t really separate the two things. And not once did he connect it to being a father of daughters. But sadly there are a lot of people out there who, whether it be out of defiance or shame for their prior support of an individual (or having not spoken up in the past when they did know), continue to live the hypocrisy and refuse to take a stand.
Thank goodness for people like Leah Remini, who are calling out the bad behavior:
“I don’t hold anything against Elisabeth Moss other than she’s continuing to support a group that is abusive and destroying families.”
But I wonder, is she still going to see Elisabeth’s films? Are those comedians who regularly make fun of celebrity Scientologists also kissing up to them as guests on their late night shows?
Food for thought.